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Gentleness and Self-Control

Writer: Randall OwensRandall Owens

Galatians 5:22-23 “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,

peace, patience, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things

there is no law.”

Let me ask you a question about natural fruit before we jump into

talking about spiritual fruit. Have you ever seen a fruit tree

struggling to grow fruit? Does an apple tree have to strain and

work at producing apples? No, of course not. Why is that?

It’s because bearing fruit for a fruit tree is what comes naturally.

There is no effort put forth by a fruit tree to grow fruit. All the tree

needs, is to be planted in the right environment. The right

environment has three essential elements. Soil, water and sun.

Soil acts as the foundation for the roots, water provides the

nutrients, and sunlight is the energy source for growth.

Now, here’s the next question. Have you ever seen a Christian

struggling to produce spiritual fruit? Yes, of course you have.

Maybe you saw them when you looked in the mirror. Why is

that? It’s because you were not planted in the right environment.

Producing spiritual fruit for a Christian should come as naturally

as an apple tree producing apples. But in order to do that a

Christian needs the same three essential elements. A solid

foundation, vital nutrients and a powerful energy source.The right environment for growing spiritual fruit is being planted

in the good soil of a body of believers. You can’t uproot yourself

constantly and expect for your spiritual roots to grow deep

enough to stabilize your life. The Word of God is the living water

that provides all the vital nutrients you need for a healthy life. If

you are not in the word of God, you will starve from lack of

spiritual nourishment. And the Holy Spirit is the energy source or

the power in the life of a Christian. If you are not in God’s word,

then it will be very hard for you to allow the power of the Holy

Spirit to work through you.

If you are lacking in any one of these essential elements,

your spiritual life will not produce the fruit that God is looking

for from you. Keep that in mind as we move forward this

morning.

The last two fruits off the Spirit and the ending phrase of the

passage are what we will cover today. The fruits are gentleness

and self-control. And the ending phrase is: “against such things

there is no law.”

Gentleness and self-control, are tied together, just like the

other pairs of fruit we have studied over the last couple of weeks.

It’s hard to imagine that you could be considered gentle if you

have no self-control. These two fruits flow in and out of each

other.

Andy talked a couple of weeks ago about how the king James

version uses different words than the ESV when it lists the fruit of

the Spirit. As a generals rule I use the ESV (English Standard

Version) when I study and teach. What you see on the screen

every Sunday is 99% from the ESV. But today I want to use the

King James Version, because the words it uses for these two

fruit of there Spirit are more clearly defined for our use today.The words gentleness and self-control probably immediately

bring to mind a modern definition. But if I replace them with the

King James Version, it uses the words meekness and

temperance. You you may not have an immediate idea of what

these fruits are all about, but meekness and temperance have

a much deeper meaning than our modern understanding of the

words gentleness and self-control.

Let’s start with Gentleness, in the King James version it is called

meekness. First let me say this. Meekness is not weakness.

The idea of being gentle and meek is all about humility. This is

an internal condition of the heart. It’s an attitude that establishes

the position from which you act. How you act, is all about having

self-control.

Unfortunately, meekness is most often misunderstood to mean

weakness. But it’s not…it’s the exact opposite. Meekness is

the ability of a person who has the power or authority to force

their own agenda over another person or situation…but they

don’t. Instead of doing that, they determine to work through the

situation with humility and patience. It’s having strength, but

through humility, keeping it under control.

Matthew 11:28-29 “28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy

laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you,

and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you

will find rest for your souls.”

In this passage is Jesus telling us to learn from Him, about what

He is like. He is gentle or meek, and lowly of heart or humble.

Jesus had all the strength that has ever existed. And yet, He

kept it under complete self-control, with His humility.

I don’t think anyone who was around Jesus, while He walked

the earth, would ever accuse Him of being weak.He cast demons out of people and stood up to the Pharisees,

with great authority. And at the same time, He humbled Himself

to be obedient to The Father’s plan. And that plan required Him

to be beaten and crucified, when He had committed no crime.

Jesus is the ultimate example of meekness and humility. For

us this would be the ultimate test of our spiritual meekness. To

be accused of a crime that you didn’t commit, and then be willing

to suffer the punishment for that crime without lashing out

against those who set you up. If you knew that a situation like

that would further God’s kingdom and it was part of His plan for

you…could you do it?

Galatians 6:1

Brothers, if anyone is caught in any

transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a

spirit of gentleness (meekness). Keep watch on yourself, lest

you too be tempted.”

This passage is all about being a spiritual leader. You have to

have spiritual authority to correct someone, but you must use it

in meekness. Let me say it again. Meekness is not weakness.

It’s allowing humility to rule your strength, so that you don’t fall

into the same temptation.

Meekness requires you to be extremely mentally tough. It is

the internal position from which your actions flow. If your mental

state is ruled by meekness, then your actions can be self-

controlled.

Which brings us to our last fruit of the Spirit, self-control. Do

you give in to the desires of you flesh or do you control yourself

by the power of the Holy Spirit?

Romans 13:14 “ 14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make

no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.”This is what we think about as self-control, but there’s more to it

than just controlling our fleshly desires concerning anger, lust or

greed. Don’t get me wrong…those are part of it. But there is

more.

Self-control in the King James Version is called temperance.

Now I really like this word, because it is much more descriptive

for what is being communicated. Temperance, comes from the

word temper. Having yourself under control when it comes to

your temper, is all about how you act. Self-control or

temperance, is an external condition.

The word temper has a different meaning than you probably think

off when you hear it. Normally when we hear the word temper,

we think of anger. But temper does not mean anger. It actually

means the opposite. Anger is what happens when you lose your

temper. Temper means: to dilute, qualify, or soften by the

addition or influence of something else.

When you temper something, you are adding something to it, in

order to change it’s properties and make it more moderate or

flexible. To temper, allows something to be changed moderately

instead of instantly. The thing that creates a temper is heat. But

here’s the thing about tempering. The thing you’re tempering

does not want to be tempered…because it has to go through the

difficult process of heat treatment.

Tempering takes time. It is not a quick process. There are no

shortcuts, if you want to have something tempered properly. If

you temper something too fast or at too high of a heat and you

will ruin the thing you were trying to make.

When it comes to cooking, if you are making a custard, you will

read in a recipe that you need to temper the eggs before adding

them into the hot milk. This is just the process of adding a littleof the hot liquid into the eggs, which will slowly bring them up

closer to the temperature of the mixture you need to put them in.

If you don’t temper the eggs and just dump them into the hot

milk, they will instantly cook. You will not have made custard.

You will have ended up making scrambled eggs in hot milk.

Does that sound delicious? No. The custard mixture will be

ruined if you don’t temper the eggs. And then you have to start

the entire process all over again from scratch.

Tempering is not just for cooking. It is also required for metal

work. A hard metal, is a brittle metal and it’s more likely to

break when put under pressure. It needs to have a certain

amount of flexibility depending on the application. So, the metal

must be tempered with a heat treatment to achieve the correct

hardness while still having some flexibility.

For example, a sword that is made from a hard untempered

metal is no good in a sword fight. Because it will be brittle and

break when striking another sword. So the blade-smith must

temper the blade so it is soft enough to allow it to flex in

battle and absorb blows without breaking.

This is a process of heating the blade up and holding it at the

temperature for the right amount of time. The tempering process

allows the blade smith to make a sword with an edge that is hard

and sharp, but still have a body that will be more flexible. If you

heat the blade too high or for too long you will ruin the sword,

and you will have to start the entire process all over again.

There is one more thing that needs to be tempered in order to

improve it...you. As a believer, you need to be tempered too. As

with everything else, the tempering process will require some

heat. In order to produce the right temperament in you, God

will have to allow some heat to come into your life.And here is where things get difficult. No one enjoys the

spiritual tempering, because of the heat treatment process.

So we must rely on the fruit of meekness for help.

If you don’t walk through this season of heat treatment with

meekness, which again is strength under the control of humility,

there is a very high chance you get over heated, and do you

know what that’s called? It’s called losing your temper.

It’s just like what happened to the eggs that scrambled when

they got hot too fast and the sword that broke under too much

pressure. If you lose your temper, then the tempering process

was not effective in your life…and the entire process will have

to be started all over again. You have turned God’s season of

tempering, into a continuous cycle of heat treatment.

Galatians 5:24-25 “24 And those who belong to Christ

Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the

Spirit.”

When our flesh is tempered by being nailed to a cross daily,

that level of humility allows us to live and walk by the Spirit, with

self control. To walk in step with the Spirit, means to walk behind

in sync with the steps of the Leader. Is this how you walk?

And now we come to the very last phrase in the passage that

lists the spiritual fruit. Let’s look at it one last time.

Galatians 5:22-23 “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,

peace, patience, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things

there is no law.”Against such things there is no law. What is Paul saying here?

In order to completely understand this, we have to understand

the context of who Paul was writing it to and why he wrote it.

Pau’s letter to the church in Galatia was all about their new

freedom in Christ. Galatians was one of the first books of the

New Testament, written bout 49 years after Jesus ascended.

The Galatian church was made up of both Jews and Gentiles.

This was creating some confusion because of the background of

the Jews in the church. Remember, Jews were accustomed to

a strict adherence to the Mosaic law. But now, they were no

longer slaves to the law. At least that’s how it was supposed to

be viewed.

The problem was that the law was everything, as far as they were

concerned. It’s all they had ever known, and Paul was trying to

help them understand that Jesus had set them free and also to

warn them not to turn back to their old ways.

The old ways that they wanted to turn back to was the law of

circumcision. The Jews were saying that the Gentiles who had

joined the church needed to have faith in Jesus…and also be

circumcised. As you can imagine, that created quite the uproar

in the church.

Paul is basically saying that when the fruit of the Spirit is actively

growing in a believer’s life, it is no longer necessary to have a

strict obedience to the Jewish laws found in the Torah…because

the fruit of the Holy Spirit is perfectly aligned with all of God’s

laws.

Romans 8:1-4 “There is therefore now no condemnation for

those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of

life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin anddeath. 3 For God has done what the law, weakened by the

flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of

sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, 4 in order

that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in

us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the

Spirit.”

What Paul said to the believers in Rome is still true for us today.

When the fruit of the Spirit is actively growing in our life, there is

no place for strict legalism. If you are operating with the fruit

of the Spirit…love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness, gentleness and self-control…that’s all you need.



 
 
 

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